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Review: Joque Harness by SpareParts

IMG_8200I have found harness heaven. I have tried a few others before – a very basic one, a boy short style one, a laced up corset one – but none felt like me. The Joque Harness by SpareParts is sexy. It is feminine but strong and so well fitted I can focus on the action. It allows me to feel…powerful. It is great not only in the overall look, but in its capabilities. Gone are the days of me feeling clunky and awkward due to shifting straps or drooping dildos. This harness even has ways to pleasure me while I use it. Such a giver.

I am a thruster. I need the hip movement to get off. So strap on sex is super hot for me IF I am comfortable and get my rhythm down. My previous harnesses made this a challenge. My basic one just shifted all over the place. The ring was not stable enough to stay put and I would find it slowly creeping down between my legs. Not great for positioning or leverage. So then I would have to stop and readjust. Something is lost in the sexy exchange if I have to stop to play with my own cock over and over. The boyshort style helped that but wasn’t the sexiest thing ever. Far more utilitarian and limiting in many ways. It doesn’t have the bells and whistles like the Joque. When I decided to take the plunge and order this one, I had high hopes and it didn’t disappoint.

There are a few main features that make me fall in love with this harness. First is the fit. It is a jock strap style harness with a wide waistband and two leg bands. It is open in the back allowing for penetration from behind. This is something the boyshorts were certainly lacking. There are lots of jock type harnesses out there, but I love the way this one secures. It closes by two wide Velcro strips and then further tightens by two elastic straps on the sides of the waistband. These two are key to its stability. It is amazingly secure and the waistband is thick enough to support the weight of any of my dildos. And, as you know, I have some large dildos…It does not shift. It does not droop. I can fit the leg straps as needed and never change those. It is easy to slip on, pull tight, and be ready. The O ring is flexible but not huge. TRex won’t fit, but most of my other toys do. It says it can accommodate a 2″ diameter dildo and I can use my Maverick with it. It also comes in two sizes which just furthers the great fit.

image_zpshq9d9awzI mentioned options to please me while I use it. There are two pockets for mini vibes – one above the toy and one below, so you can customize where you want the vibrations. I have used my Tango with good results. It seems the vibrations travel down the toy a bit, but honestly Dr. R isn’t a big fan of vibration so I haven’t focused on that much. I wouldn’t say they carry a ton though because even my Tango didn’t bother him. The cloth portion of the harness is overlapped, creating a pocket and a full opening behind the O ring. This overlapping fabric means I can secure a dildo with a flared base for internal stimulation! By tucking the base of a toy into the folds of the cloth, it stays put. The dildo won’t be thrusting as I thrust but it can add to the sensation by keeping me full. It is amazing. I have not seen this with other harnesses. Because of this split, I can switch out toys while still wearing it relatively easily. Less interruption to the action. The O ring is very accessible.

The Joque is even machine washable!! So it is easy to keep clean and sanitized. I line dry it to keep the elastic in better shape but that is it for care. Very convenient. It is made of a poly spandex blend and is really comfortable to wear. The elastic doesn’t chafe at all on my legs or waist. It is breathable and soft. The plastic buckles are smooth and don’t scratch.

This harness is just sexy. And mine is PURPLE!! I am not usually a super girly girl, but I love a purple harness. I feel feminine and powerful. It fits well, is flattering, very well made and stays where I put it. It can handle my larger toys and all the vigorous thrusting Dr. R can take. Now that I found it, I may never take it off.

Review: Fuze Velvet Silicone Dildo

imageOn a recent shopping trip, I decided to get something for Dr. R so I grabbed this Fuze Velvet Silicone Dildo. I own a harness. We have played with pegging, but this was the first dildo I purchased specifically for strap on use. I was looking for something larger than the small, smooth peg that came with my harness, but nothing too large for beginner play. At just an inch wide, this toy seemed to fit the bill. I was drawn to the ridges on the base and that I could add a bullet vibe for me. I picked up a Tango while I was there, you know, because I needed a good bullet vibe if I was buying a toy made for one. More on that later. I also liked the angle of the shaft and that the base was oblong and not round. It seemed like it would sit up in the harness better than others I had tried.

After using this several times, I have to say I am a fan. It is 100% silicone, phthalate free, easy to clean and boilable. All good things when discussing anal toys. It is velvety silicone which I find to cause less friction and require less lube than the smooth silicone. And it feels nice. The shaft has some give but is certainly firm enough to stand up to insertion and thrusting. The head and shaft are slim and smooth enough that it is not overwhelming. The 5.5″ insertable length is perfect. It is long enough he gets the stimulation he wants, and I am not worried it is going to fall out mid-thrust. The bumps and grooves are all very gradual and nonirritating. My assumptions regarding the way it would sit in the harness were spot on. Because of the elongated base, it does not droop. I don’t feel like I have to readjust the harness every few minutes. That is big for someone new to thrusting! It is not a motion I can say I used to make very often, but I’m getting better!

imageThe features of this toy that were added for the wearer’s pleasure also make a huge difference for me. The ridges on the base are nice. I won’t say they give me a lot of stimulation, but they do help the toy stay in place. My harness is a very inexpensive (and cheap) harness and there is fabric between the toy and my body. I can imagine that these ridges could work wonders if the harness you are using is open behind the ring. I think I need an upgrade….The ability to add a bullet vibe really bumps this up for me. I enjoy the pressure of thrusting but I would not be able to get off on that alone. The vibe really increases my enjoyment of strap on play.image

The vibe can cause problems though. The Tango fits perfectly diameter wise, which is good because I need a strong vibe to start. Add some silicone between me and the vibrations and I need a really strong buzz. A cheap bullet wouldn’t have worked for me at all. BUT, the Tango is long and slips out when in use. If you get any lube down there, it will fall out between the motion and the vibrations. And you are going to get lube down there. I have no idea how you wouldn’t, especially with any anal play! That can be a bit distracting and you have to pause to reinsert it or continue without it while it flops around buzzing on the floor. Not ideal. Maybe I can figure out a way to support it from the bottom so it doesn’t fall out…duct tape?

As for the opinion from the one actually receiving the toy? He seems to like it very, very much.