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Review: Joque Harness by SpareParts

IMG_8200I have found harness heaven. I have tried a few others before – a very basic one, a boy short style one, a laced up corset one – but none felt like me. The Joque Harness by SpareParts is sexy. It is feminine but strong and so well fitted I can focus on the action. It allows me to feel…powerful. It is great not only in the overall look, but in its capabilities. Gone are the days of me feeling clunky and awkward due to shifting straps or drooping dildos. This harness even has ways to pleasure me while I use it. Such a giver.

I am a thruster. I need the hip movement to get off. So strap on sex is super hot for me IF I am comfortable and get my rhythm down. My previous harnesses made this a challenge. My basic one just shifted all over the place. The ring was not stable enough to stay put and I would find it slowly creeping down between my legs. Not great for positioning or leverage. So then I would have to stop and readjust. Something is lost in the sexy exchange if I have to stop to play with my own cock over and over. The boyshort style helped that but wasn’t the sexiest thing ever. Far more utilitarian and limiting in many ways. It doesn’t have the bells and whistles like the Joque. When I decided to take the plunge and order this one, I had high hopes and it didn’t disappoint.

There are a few main features that make me fall in love with this harness. First is the fit. It is a jock strap style harness with a wide waistband and two leg bands. It is open in the back allowing for penetration from behind. This is something the boyshorts were certainly lacking. There are lots of jock type harnesses out there, but I love the way this one secures. It closes by two wide Velcro strips and then further tightens by two elastic straps on the sides of the waistband. These two are key to its stability. It is amazingly secure and the waistband is thick enough to support the weight of any of my dildos. And, as you know, I have some large dildos…It does not shift. It does not droop. I can fit the leg straps as needed and never change those. It is easy to slip on, pull tight, and be ready. The O ring is flexible but not huge. TRex won’t fit, but most of my other toys do. It says it can accommodate a 2″ diameter dildo and I can use my Maverick with it. It also comes in two sizes which just furthers the great fit.

image_zpshq9d9awzI mentioned options to please me while I use it. There are two pockets for mini vibes – one above the toy and one below, so you can customize where you want the vibrations. I have used my Tango with good results. It seems the vibrations travel down the toy a bit, but honestly Dr. R isn’t a big fan of vibration so I haven’t focused on that much. I wouldn’t say they carry a ton though because even my Tango didn’t bother him. The cloth portion of the harness is overlapped, creating a pocket and a full opening behind the O ring. This overlapping fabric means I can secure a dildo with a flared base for internal stimulation! By tucking the base of a toy into the folds of the cloth, it stays put. The dildo won’t be thrusting as I thrust but it can add to the sensation by keeping me full. It is amazing. I have not seen this with other harnesses. Because of this split, I can switch out toys while still wearing it relatively easily. Less interruption to the action. The O ring is very accessible.

The Joque is even machine washable!! So it is easy to keep clean and sanitized. I line dry it to keep the elastic in better shape but that is it for care. Very convenient. It is made of a poly spandex blend and is really comfortable to wear. The elastic doesn’t chafe at all on my legs or waist. It is breathable and soft. The plastic buckles are smooth and don’t scratch.

This harness is just sexy. And mine is PURPLE!! I am not usually a super girly girl, but I love a purple harness. I feel feminine and powerful. It fits well, is flattering, very well made and stays where I put it. It can handle my larger toys and all the vigorous thrusting Dr. R can take. Now that I found it, I may never take it off.

Review: WeVibe’s Tango

DSC_0228Ah, the Tango. Every single blogger has reviewed this toy. Every single one has owned this icon. There is good reason for it’s abundance. It is the bullet vibe to end all bullet vibes.

When I think “bullet vibe”, my mind goes to a cheap, looks like a giant pill type toy that tortures my clit with surface vibrations to weak to work and buzzes my hand to numbness in 20 seconds. I have never quite understood their purpose, where they would excel. They are not great on their own when I could get something with a handle for better hold and positioning. They are not great in toys because their vibrations never seem strong enough to carry through and be effective. They don’t stay put on their own. They just seemed like poorly designed throw away toys. The Tango is not this type of toy. Toss out all your preconceived notions about bullet vibes. This is not a bullet vibe. Sure, it may fit into that demographic, but it is in its own category.

I originally bought the Tango explicitly to use in my new Fuze dildo in my harness. The Fuze took a vibe and I figured if I was going to buy a bullet vibe (note my aforementioned distain…) I figured I should invest in a good one. The Tango had a cult following and was made by WeVibe so I took the chance. It fit into my new toy and I figured that would be the extent of my usage. For the record, it is great in my Fuze. The vibrations carry beautifully through the silicone and do wonderful things when I wear my harness. It really increases the pleasure of strap on play for me.

Those vibrations are what make the Tango so different. Most bullet vibes I have tried are akin to the cheap Pocket Rocket I bought at a Spencer’s in high school. Buzzy. Surface. Almost irritating after a bit. Certainly will numb your bits. Either that or they aren’t strong enough at all. Barely enough to get you going. The perfect amount to frustrate you. Again, not the Tango. The vibrations are deep. Most describe them as rumbly. I am not sure I would say they are rumbly, but they do resonate deep into my pelvis. It seems to stimulate not just the external tissue but the erectile tissue under the surface as well. It almost elicits two sensations that way. The deeper “rumbly” one and the external buzz. Yummy stuff for sure. It was amazingly mind blowing with my Comet wand. Internal, external, subcutaneous. All sorts of delicious feelings and a hell of an orgasm.

DSC_0233The Tango is one of the few non-silicone toys I own. It is made of a body safe ABS plastic. It is still phthalate and latex free. It is a hard plastic though as opposed to a soft silicone. I believe the material and shape of the toy play a huge roll in its power. The vibrations carry very easily through firm plastic. No power is lost traveling through silicone. You get it on full throttle. And the shape is not only cute (I feel like a lipstick shaped vibe can only be described as “cute”) it is absolutely functional. You can use the full length of the toy for very broad stimulation, the flat side of the tip for more directed sensation, or the very tip for pinpoint accuracy. I like a toy with options. It is slim and easy to handle and maneuver.

Another thing that surprised me about this toy is that my hand doesn’t go numb holding it. I really thought it would! Especially with the strength of the toy. But I guess that is just another sign of the quality of the vibrations. They aren’t so buzzy that your nerves shut down. I can hold it during sex and not finding it distracting!

The Tango is waterproof (hello hot tub party…) and rechargeable. It charges with a magnetic USB charger. I have found it holds a charge for the advertised 2 hour window. I have not run it completely out of power yet so I am not sure how long it would go. I do appreciate the low power warning light though! As a woman haunted by batteries dying at the most inopportune time, I like that I know the end is near. Plug in or deal with the frustration. It is a great feature. It has 8 vibration modes/patterns so you won’t get bored, although I am pretty classic. I like it steady. But even there they have me covered with 4 levels of intensity. DSC_0236

Obviously I realized I was very wrong to judge all bullet style vibes the same. The Tango is a very welcome addition to my kit. It is so portable it may just live in my purse. You never know when I may stumble upon a party…

Review: Fuze Velvet Silicone Dildo

imageOn a recent shopping trip, I decided to get something for Dr. R so I grabbed this Fuze Velvet Silicone Dildo. I own a harness. We have played with pegging, but this was the first dildo I purchased specifically for strap on use. I was looking for something larger than the small, smooth peg that came with my harness, but nothing too large for beginner play. At just an inch wide, this toy seemed to fit the bill. I was drawn to the ridges on the base and that I could add a bullet vibe for me. I picked up a Tango while I was there, you know, because I needed a good bullet vibe if I was buying a toy made for one. More on that later. I also liked the angle of the shaft and that the base was oblong and not round. It seemed like it would sit up in the harness better than others I had tried.

After using this several times, I have to say I am a fan. It is 100% silicone, phthalate free, easy to clean and boilable. All good things when discussing anal toys. It is velvety silicone which I find to cause less friction and require less lube than the smooth silicone. And it feels nice. The shaft has some give but is certainly firm enough to stand up to insertion and thrusting. The head and shaft are slim and smooth enough that it is not overwhelming. The 5.5″ insertable length is perfect. It is long enough he gets the stimulation he wants, and I am not worried it is going to fall out mid-thrust. The bumps and grooves are all very gradual and nonirritating. My assumptions regarding the way it would sit in the harness were spot on. Because of the elongated base, it does not droop. I don’t feel like I have to readjust the harness every few minutes. That is big for someone new to thrusting! It is not a motion I can say I used to make very often, but I’m getting better!

imageThe features of this toy that were added for the wearer’s pleasure also make a huge difference for me. The ridges on the base are nice. I won’t say they give me a lot of stimulation, but they do help the toy stay in place. My harness is a very inexpensive (and cheap) harness and there is fabric between the toy and my body. I can imagine that these ridges could work wonders if the harness you are using is open behind the ring. I think I need an upgrade….The ability to add a bullet vibe really bumps this up for me. I enjoy the pressure of thrusting but I would not be able to get off on that alone. The vibe really increases my enjoyment of strap on play.image

The vibe can cause problems though. The Tango fits perfectly diameter wise, which is good because I need a strong vibe to start. Add some silicone between me and the vibrations and I need a really strong buzz. A cheap bullet wouldn’t have worked for me at all. BUT, the Tango is long and slips out when in use. If you get any lube down there, it will fall out between the motion and the vibrations. And you are going to get lube down there. I have no idea how you wouldn’t, especially with any anal play! That can be a bit distracting and you have to pause to reinsert it or continue without it while it flops around buzzing on the floor. Not ideal. Maybe I can figure out a way to support it from the bottom so it doesn’t fall out…duct tape?

As for the opinion from the one actually receiving the toy? He seems to like it very, very much.